Singleness is No Season

As a single 22-year-old who has had only one “official” relationship, I cannot tell you how many times that I have been constantly reassured by both friends and family that this is just my “season of singleness” that I have to get through. Ugh…just hearing the phrase “season of singleness” now, after hearing it so many times, has me grinning that half-smile you make the moment you realize that the baby you’re holding is wearing a diaper full of poop.

Now don’t get me wrong, singleness is most definitely a “season” to those that are happily married or to those that are still giddy after recently changing their relationship status on Facebook from “single” to “in a relationship”. They’ve been there, done that. But to those not involved in a romantic partnership, singleness is currently their life.

A season is defined as, “a particular period of time during the year.” As most of us know, a period of time has both a beginning and an end. Period.

Lol, see what I did there?

But in all seriousness, whenever somebody tells someone else that they are just in a “season of singleness”, they are insinuating that “this too shall pass”. Like the bitter cold of winter or the April showers that are sure to bring May flowers. But who am I, or anyone else for that matter, to inadvertently tell someone else that the current circumstance God has you rocking right now isn’t good enough for you? Or that you deserve better? That you are supposed to feel this way. Cold, clammy, and discouraged…

Honestly, God has so much in store for you right now. Not when you are enjoying the rays of sun that summer brings when you are finally able to prove to Him how good of a Christian you are through your wholesome dating relationship or through your godly marriage, but now. 

Summer doesn’t come around when you enter a relationship, but when you finally realize that your worth and your happiness is in no way hinged on something as fleeting as a relationship. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:8 that it is good for others to stay unmarried as he did if they can help it. He takes this statement a step further when he says later on that it is much easier to glorify and care for the things of the Lord when you are not having to worry about the cares of your significant other (1 Corinthians 7:32-33).

The only time that God is gonna dub your singleness as a “season” is when He realizes that you were better created to glorify Him through a tangible relationship. A relationship that will thrive cohesively alongside the one you already have with Him.

Lean on this truth, friends. If God brings you a wonderful godly person to do life with, by all means go for it! If not, that’s great too! You are already involved in an intimate relationship with the Most High! And maybe next time you get to sit down and talk Jesus with a certain single someone, try to refrain from uttering that cursed Christian catchphrase.